It’s so important to remember that a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as enjoyable as romance is, dating isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and purer than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore.
I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your family, your friends – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count.
Of course, it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you?
Being in love is pretty. It’s magical; I know it is. But it’s also wonderful to stop for a coffee with your best friend or sit at dinner and hear people share their journeys.
It’s also wonderful to visit the world with nothing but yourself and learn everything you can about other people’s culture.
The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one.” But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.
Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better.
